The end is near

 Thank you for joining me in this final blog. Divorce plays such a center-stage role in all of our lives. We see it and some of its effects in the media and our daily lives, but why is divorce so common? Not only this, but is divorce even preventable, and if children are involved, how are they affected? These are all important questions to ask when it comes to talking about divorce, so let's dive into them.

Divorce many times seems so common that almost every marriage seems to end in a divorce. Though there are many answers for why divorce happens, many of which are justifiable reasons, more than half of all divorces are regretted after two years, according to some researchers. For many divorces, the main driver is anger and frustration with your partner. These emotions are common for those who are married. No marriage is ever 100% smooth sailing. Trials and problems arise that cause tension in marriage.

Sometimes, because of the media, gossip chase, comparisons, and other problems, we think that marriage should be like Romeo and Juliet. Deeply in love with each other, and never upset with one another. Staying in love with one is a good and achievable goal for marriage, but it requires effort, time, and dedication. On the other hand, though you should try to avoid being upset with one another, you will probably become upset and/or frustrated with one another. Knowing this is key to knowing how to avoid a divorce as much as possible.

One of the best divorce killers out there is good commutation. Many times, a large chunk of the problems leading to a divorce center around being unable to communicate properly how you feel. A good use of commutation that I talked about in last week's blog is concerning I feel statements, and trying to see the issue from their side of the story. Simply trying to see something from someone else's perspective can open your eyes to understanding the issue completely differently. Just like in the rest of life, when you get kids involved, the issue becomes much more complicated.

In most situations when there is a divorce and children are involved, the children blame themselves for the divorce, especially if the parents remain friends after the divorce. Not only this, but they may have to choose between which parent they love more, which can drain them emotionally, physically, spiritually, and intellectually.

Divorces may seem to be common, but just because half of all marriages fail in the United States doesn't mean your marriage has a 50/50 shot. The key is how you communicate with your spouse. Develop to the best of your ability healthy communication skills. Marriage is strengthened by learning to communicate and work with one another.

In the short run, it may seem like the best option is to get a divorce, which may be the best for the short term. In the long run, though, after getting a divorce, many learn to regret it, wishing they had started married and worked through their difficulties together. When a device is decided upon and there are children involved, no matter whether they live at home or not, they will blame themselves to some degree for the divorce no mature the reasoning behind it.

Thank you all for reading my blog post! I know what I have said in this blog probably upset some of you. I apologize if any of the blogs I have posted have felt like an attack against you. Most likely I did not intend to hurt you. As I stated in my must-read blog post, I really want you to reach out and comment on any questions you have about what I'm saying. I really hope that this blog helps you to grow and become a better human being.

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