The Key of commucating

 What is the difference between a good commutation and a bad commutation, and how do we learn the difference? These questions and others have plagued humanity since the beginning of time. To see the effect of communication, we must know about commutations first. So, what is communication?

Communication really can be almost everything. From the smallest hand gestures to the words we say all play a role in how a message is received. Though we may not notice it, communicating is code. We can't read each other's thoughts, so we encode thoughts into words, symbols, and or expressions. Then the message has to be decoded by the person receiving the code.

Speeking code can be a difficult skill to master, especially since no one speaks the same code. Just like in war, there are code talkers and code breakers for daily communication. Unlike war, however, there is no real training in communication code reading and breaking. Instead, many times we are thrown into a problem and expected to figure it out along the way without knowing much.

This forum of learning communication from first-hand or second-hand experiences can benefit and harm individuals. As with many subjects, there is great information and resources on the topic, but they can be hard to find. Two great resources to improve communication are the book How to Win Friends and Influence People, and the E.A.R. method of communicating with someone.

How to Win Friends and Influence People is almost scripture when it comes to communicating. For me, conversation with others and knowing names are some of the most important lessons in the book. A person's name is the most significant word in the human language. Though it might not seem like much, calling someone by their name is such a boost to their self-esteem. Because it shows that you care about the person deeply.

For many people, talking about themselves makes them feel important and meaningful, even if it is about something that isn't that important. Instead of trying to talk about ourselves, most of the time. We focus on listening to others. Not only will they feel better about themselves, but you will be more significant to them because you will listen to them.

Communication isn't all about listening to the other person. You must be keen on how to communicate your own thoughts and feelings. This is where the E.A.R. method comes in. In E.A.R. Every conversation starts with empathy. Instead of seeing others from your point of view, see people from their point of view. When we try to see others from what they are coming from, it is far easier to find truth and common ground in what you both are saying.

Though it seems a little strange, for a good conversation you must assert yourself. I'm not saying to dominate the conversation or to bully the other person into doing what you want. Assert in this context simply means "expressing your feelings openly and directly." Instead of beating you around, the boss comes out and says exactly how you feel.

In all walks of life, everything done or said increases or decreases respect. The something is seen in commutation. To hold good conversations, there must be respect shown. If no respect is shown, no matter how hard you try, the first two steps will never work out. Respect is the glue that holds a good conversation together.

Though it might be hard to have good communication with others, avoiding bad communication is the key to maintaining healthy relationships. Having aggressive emotions take control not only leads to current negative commutation, but a chain reaction causing more bad reactions. Once frustration, anger, or any other negative emotion takes control, it is extremely difficult to have conventions that achieve growth and understanding between the two parties.