Buckle up, this is going to be a wild one.

  We've discussed many of the fazes leading up to marriage, but now it's time to bite the bullet and talk about sex. Sex is probably one of if not the most sensitive subjects I'll discuss in this blog, so bear with me. Many times we find ourselves not well-informed about sex, have received information from less-than-ideal sources, or have other problems when it comes to learning about sex. So what's there to know about sex? To know what to look for in a sexual relationship, we must know what to avoid.

Though I'm not a professional in sex education, I will try my best to provide good information. However, if you have questions regarding sex or anything regarding this subject. Please go to the source I have on my sources page. Please don't just go to Google for answers, that could have the potential to cause more damage than good!

One of the biggest things to avoid in a sexual relationship, whether you plan to enter into one or have already entered into one, is pornography. Pornography can come in every shape of media. It isn't limited to pictures, videos, or movies. It can be in the shape of books, radio shows, or even just thoughts in our minds and daily conversations. Different methods of pornography affect different audiences. Notable examples can be found in both men and women. Men tend to be more attracted to visual pornography compared to literature pornography. On the other hand, women tend to be more attracted to literature pornography compared to visual pornography, but the opposite of these can still happen.

It isn't hard to see examples of visual pornography. It can be found in many magazines, movies, and internet websites. However, literature pornography is a little harder to detect. A key example of pornography in the shape of literature is the Twilight Book series. These books and many other romance books arouse the powerful sexual emotions that should be saved for marriage. They serve as a gateway drug, leading to dissatisfaction with the spouse or partner, cheating, and so many more problems.

Visual pornography, verbal pornography, and literary pornography have the same overall effects. They give a high like that of most drugs. If you're not sure if something is pornography or not, a good way to know is if you feel yourself being sexually aroused. If the answer is yes, then many times it could be classified as pornography. Don't mistake that I'm saying that sexual arousal is bad. It's the opposite. Sexual arousal is nothing but amazing, but it needs to happen under the right circumstances.

The danger of pornography is it takes the very precious and vital emotions that we feel when we care about someone romantically, physically, spiritually, and emotionally and degrades them into a simple high. Pornography can and, over time, will degrade people into being property and or drugs, whether the person being seen as pornography knows it or not.

One way to avoid pornography, cheating, becoming dissatisfied with your spouse sexually, and many other problems is to set clear boundaries. Each person has to figure out what bounders to set for themselves and the relationships they are involved with, whether it's romantic or not. Let me suggest a few ideas that might help.

Do not think of anyone other than your significant other romantically. Frequently spend time going out with your significant other in organized and creative ways. Don't flirt with anyone else other than your significant other. Do little things that show that you care about your significant other, such as washing the dishes, helping them with a project, or watching the kids for them. Above all else, avoid pornography.

Many media sources use pornography in books, movies, and magazines to give the idea that porn is a good thing, that it's not addictive, or even that sex is supposed to be done that way. I speak from personal experience when I say pornography destroys every aspect of your life and never improves you in any way. No matter the form it comes in, pornography is never worth it. It is one of if not the most addictive substances out there.

Unlike other drugs that are harder to locate, more expensive, or more physically damaging. Pornography is cheap, many times free, easily excusable, through the use of the internet, and affects our physical appearance very little. If you're ever thinking about using pornography, don't do it. You are hurting your dreams, happiness, and every part of your life. It is one of the most destructive substances known to man. It's better left untouched for everyone's safety.