Like fire and brimstone holy cow!
My mind was blown this week by everything I learned, though I wish I could write everything out for you guys. Let's be real, you don't want to read ten pages of me going on and on, and I don't have the time to do that. I will put my sources at the bottom, so you can do your own research whenever you like. With that aside, let's dive into it. I'm just going to come out and say it. Cohabiting before marriage is such a bad idea. Even having sex outside of marriage is a bad idea.
Women, I'm going to be honest with you, the big reason men would want to cohabit is to get sex out of you. They don't have marriage in mind. I know, I've never cohabited before, so you can ask, how would I know? In that case, read the resources. It clearly states that wanting to have a sexual relationship after your marriage is more fulfilling and happier.
Sorry guys, but you're not off the hook yet, but this is also for women too. Sex is a tool to bring greater happiness in your marriage and bring in the next generation. In simpler terms, sex is not a drug, it isn't Meth or heroin. Sex is a tool. Sex is like a hammer. It has its place and is very useful in its place. It doesn't matter how expensive or glamorous your hammer is as long as it gets the job done.
The same can be said about sex. It doesn't matter how good at sex you are or how good the other person is. All that mature, is that they know the proper use of sex. If you want to play the "ow, but they're my soul mate." Then, if you have your soul mate, get married. Let me ask you something as well. Soul mates are perfect matches for each other. Since when has there ever been a perfect person other than Jesus?
Let me add this quick little note. Ladies if you give sex to men outside of marriage to get love and affection out of them. You're not going to get real love or real affection out of them. If anything, you're going to make them more lustful. Instead of seeing you as someone to love, they just see you as an object. Men will just see you as something to use and get a high. You're just hurting yourself and them. I can say this from personal experience.
When I was in high school, there were two girls that I liked. One was really flashy. She wore tight clothes that were a little revealing. She was really attractive and really sweet. Furthermore, she also had a boyfriend with whom she had made out with once or twice. The second girl was less showy, was just as sweet, and didn't seriously date anyone. During that time, I thought I liked both girls equally, but as time went on I realized all I wanted to do with the first girl was kiss her, hold her hand, and just flash her around. On the other hand, all I wanted to do with the second girl was be her friend, give her a hug when she needed it, and let her know that someone cared about her. If you want men to love you, you don't make them lust after you.
If that story didn't give you enough evidence, this question might help. Do you want your boyfriend or husband to see you as porn instead of a person? Treat yourselves as a person, not an object. If a guy really likes you, he will care very little about how flashy you are and more about your personality. Guys, there will always be some flashy girl that you think is cute, but let me share a little secret with you, and if the ladies are reading this, it goes for you too. You're going to be way happier if you stop chasing the flashy ones and go after the one that helps make you a better person. I know, crazy right? Not only that, but a girl will like you 10 times more if you are into her personality and not how flashy she is. I'm not saying to not go for the cute girl, I'm saying go for the girl who will make you a better man socially, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. The same thing goes for you ladies.
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DeleteIs this satire?
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry if this came across as me joking or calling people stupid. As a stated in the blog no one is perfect, that goes for me to. I will try to show more empathy in feature blogs. Thank you I really had no Idea that this was coming across as belittling others.
DeleteI think your tone comes across as very demeaning towards women, I’m sure this wasn’t your intention. From a female perspective, it sounds very degrading and objectifying. I also take issue with your perspective on intimacy, I definitely agree that sex should remain inside of marriage but I take issue with the idea that its primary purpose is procreation and also your separation of emotional and physical intimacy. You can find a woman physically attractive and like her personality, both are required for a relationship to flourish. I also feel that you may be projecting your standards of dress and manner on others. A woman's clothing does not define her personality. You seem to have conflated the physical attraction to the girl in your high school with your lust for her. Furthermore, being “flashy” is an expression of personality. It’s really important not to judge others on expression. “Flashy” girls and “girls who make you a better person” can be the same girl. People are multifaceted.
ReplyDeleteRegarding your question about being seen as “porn,” I must say that your partner should see you as desirable and “sexy” since you are going to have sex after marriage. If you’re seeing a partner as porn rather than a person you are attracted to that is not her fault but rather you should reapproach your own perspective.
Thank you for your comment it is very much appreciated, I do understand that this post came off as demanding. I didn’t mean to sound degrading or objectifying. I understand that everyone has their own opinion and this is just an expression of my own. I will admit it was poorly written for the time frame I was given. I didn’t mean to judge others based on their personal expressions, I was just trying to show how these two young ladies presented themselves to me. I agree that your partner should see you as desirable and sexy, however not everyone should have that opinion of you. I agree that men should be held responsible for how they think and objectify women, however, it is also on the women to dress modestly.
DeleteSo… it is a woman’s fault that a man won’t properly love them? This thing is pointing and blaming at a woman because she gave herself away. Meanwhile, the man is blameless? Something I have been taught in my time as a member of the LDS church is that it is important to be chaste not only in the body, but in the mind. If a man is not able to control his thoughts, that is not a woman’s problem. Believe it or not, it’s okay to think of a girl and want to kiss her. It’s okay and it’s normal. What’s not okay is that because you want to kiss her, you objectify her and blame it on “what she wears.” That is not on her, that is on you. Take some personal accountability.
ReplyDeleteI’m sorry that it came across as blaming women, I meant to put both blame on men and women. However, it was poorly written and came across in a way I didn’t mean it to. I agree that it is important to be chased in both body and mind as well. I didn’t mean to objectify women based on how they acted and what they wore. I agree that it is not on women how men think and that they should be held more accountable for their thoughts and actions.
DeleteThis post is nuttyyyyyy
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DeleteThis post and Elvis be the same the way they make me say “Yikes”.
DeleteMan with male gaze mad at girls for looking good since he can’t stop giving the male gaze…with that said I think this post is a personal problem ngl.
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